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Can You Have a Deeply Fulfilling Sex Life After 50? Absolutely.

When most people think about sex and intimacy in midlife and beyond, the assumption is decline — dwindling desire, fewer connections, less fulfillment. But the truth is, many women report the exact opposite: a sexual awakening after 50.

In this week’s episode of The Rewilded Human Podcast, Dr. Lucille and Dr. Lynn dive into this often-silenced subject with Carla Crivaro, a sex and relationship coach who specializes in guiding women through midlife transitions. With humor, wisdom, and honesty, Carla unpacks what it really looks like to reclaim pleasure, intimacy, and autonomy in this stage of life.

Shifting Desires and New Awareness

Menopause can mark the beginning of an entirely new relationship to sexuality. Hormonal shifts may change the body, but they can also spark a greater awareness of self. For many women, this is the first time in their lives that desire becomes about their own fulfillment, not just their partner’s.

Carla explains why so many midlife women feel more empowered to explore their needs and how this awakening can transform long-term relationships.

Emotional Safety and Old Dynamics

One of the biggest blockages Carla sees isn’t physical at all — it’s emotional. Resentment, unspoken boundaries, and the so-called mother-son dynamic that often creeps into long marriages can quietly erode desire. Rebuilding intimacy starts with creating emotional safety and honest communication.

Talking Desire and Boundaries

Desire doesn’t disappear with age, but expressing it can feel daunting, especially for women conditioned to put others first. Carla shares practical insights on how to communicate openly with men, set boundaries, and begin conversations that can change the entire dynamic of a relationship.

Beyond Monogamy

Another eye-opening topic: the rise of non-monogamy and throuples among midlife women. While it isn’t for everyone, Carla notes that the deeper point is autonomy. Midlife can bring a reevaluation of what partnership means, and for some, exploring new relationship models is part of that journey.

What Men Often Misunderstand

Men often assume declining desire is about them. In reality, it’s usually about years of unmet needs, lack of communication, or emotional disconnect. By learning to listen without defensiveness, men can become powerful allies in rekindling intimacy.

The Takeaway

A thriving sex life after 50 is not only possible — it’s often richer, deeper, and more authentic than ever before. The key is letting go of outdated scripts and embracing this stage of life as an opportunity for growth, healing, and joy.

Carla’s message is clear: Pleasure is not a luxury. It’s a birthright.

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